Is your mind constantly spinning and churning?
If you seek real freedom from stress, anxiety, and reactivity...and you are tired of the self-improvement hamster wheel...Welcome.
You did what you were told
From a young age you were instructed to think the "right" thoughts so that you could have the "right" feelings, be the "right" person, and live the "right" life.So you got to work figuring it all out. You strived to improve yourself and fix what was not working.You learned to think the crap out of everything. No situation is safe from your lists of pros and cons.However, life does not fit neatly in a thought or theory.
What we weren't told
Most stress, anxiety, reactivity and avoidance are fueled by our overdependence on thinking.No amount of thinking is a cure for sadness, anger, frustration, loss, or heartbreak.Thinking is a great tool in many situations, but is definitely not the only one for navigating life.There is a way of knowing that is more direct and fundamental.This way of knowing has been around much much longer than narrative thinking.This way of knowing is sensing.The difference between thinking and sensing is the difference between knowing where vanilla comes from and actually tasting it.Recognizing this distinction is fundamental to personal wellbeing and the quality of our relationships.For thousands of years, every lasting wisdom tradition has been teaching the critical importance of knowing this difference. More recently, thousands of scientific studies are telling us the same thing.Sensing allows you to take a break from all the spinning in your head and experience life more directly and fully.
It is a simple path
This is not "woo woo." It does not require any new age philosophy or a special setting. It can be done anywhere and any time.In fact, you are experiencing it all the time without recognizing it.A tiny shift lets you step back from the filter of thinking and returns you to the truth of your life.
What does this coaching look like?
~ Curious listening:
Sometimes just being heard is all that you need and sometimes the right question, asked sincerely, can make a huge difference.~ Pointing to experience:
Rather than being told what you might find, you are continually guided to look for yourself.
There are real-life benefits.
LESS OF THIS:~ Reactivity. You can let go of upset rather than spinning and stewing.~ Resentment. You can enjoy being of service without feeling obligation, the need for approval, or the expectation of something in return.~ Fixing. You can be peaceful when someone else is upset. You don’t have to fix their discomfort to escape your own.
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MORE OF THIS:~ Follow through. The avoidance of discomfort does not fuel procrastination. Discipline and motivation emerge without effort.~ Clarity. You don’t have to hint and hope that others will read your mind - only to be hurt or angry when they don’t.~ Relief. You don't have to improve yourself or ‘get control' of your life. There is a natural ease in your own skin.~ Connection. Be more present and supportive with those you care about.~ Joy. Heck yeah! The crazy richness of life becomes more vivid and more fun.
What clients are saying:
“I’ve done therapy. I’ve done mindset coaching. But this helped me see that I didn’t have to fix anything to be at peace.”
~ Sarah M., Executive Coach“I used to be constantly anxious around my parents. Now I can actually stay present, even when things get tense. That’s huge for me.”
~ Joel R., Tech Entrepreneur"This approach is deceptively simple. I thought I needed more tools. What I really needed was to stop running. This work brought that home.”
~ Lena G., Creative Director"My greatest source of anxiety is my son's anxiety. I now have the ability to sit with him calmly rather than yell. Our relationship is so much better."
~ Steve G., Financial Advisor
What does this kind of coaching look like?
It looks a lot like a conversation. You share what is important to you and I guide you to return to the truth of your experience.Coaching sessions are an hour in length. We meet by Zoom or phone call.We usually start by meeting once a week and less often as time goes on and you become more comfortable guiding the process yourself.The cost is $200 for a single session, $1000 for six sessions, or $2000 for 14 sessions. Financial aid is available.
Questions?
Feel free to connect. I will respond as quickly as possible.
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Want to discuss any of this?
The call is just a conversation. You’ll leave with something you can use immediately. There is no pressure to sign up for anything else.
Why I do this:
I grew up in an emotionally chaotic environment.I spent half my life trying to get away from the discomfort of anxiety.That effort was often self-destructive and hurtful to others.I struggled with reactivity, lack of self-regulation, and just feeling okay in my own skin.I spent decades reading self-improvement books and studying neuroscience.But, the real change came when I stopped trying to escape and started looking…not for the cause of anxiety…not for how to fix it…just at the truth of it.
This time-tested and research-supported approach transformed my life.It can do the same for you.I am grateful to be able to share it with as many people as possible.I would love to hear from you.Warmly,
Dave